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Outside of shops, I felt just as lost with conversation starters.
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High five to me. I'd prefer to see what he looks like surfing, in a onesie, or having sundowners on Koh Samui to get a broader picture of him first. And let's face it: Less engaging than Twitter, but way more fun than Solitaire. Consider me back in the game.
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This article was originally published on 25 July
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